Your Messenger message:

"Hi sir, I feel very hollow. I work at night for a ____ company. Pay is OK to take care of the family, pay bills and to travel out town now and then. I used to socialize with my friends but since I ___________ and started to work __ years ago everything went downhill. I also stopped dating _ years ago. I'm __ but I feel very tired."

My reply:

Hi ___________!

It is indeed difficult to live for your child if you have not yet lived for yourself. It seems that you do not love your job and that it does not love you back, and the only benefit you are receiving from the arrangement is your paycheck. You need to engage in something that will elevate your spirit--and romance is never the answer, because spirituality is a relationship with something greater, not with another human being.

Make a list of things you do best. Develop two or three abilities on the side, when you are free from work. You need not compete with anyone as long as you like what you are doing.

And remember--only you can change your life. The first step in doing so is to want it very badly.